Why we often fail

We often fail not because we didn’t plan very well or because we’re too lazy to plan or that we use the wrong approach. We fail sometimes because we are either in a haste to see result or we don’t invest our all in the process of planning. You see when things are going haywire and you found yourself in a lot of mess, you can hardly wait patiently to analyze the situation first and come up with many countermeasures in order to defeat that situation in one full swoop rather you will be so anxious to get away from it there by looking for an instant solution that may not last long. Most at times you can be very confused on how to go about it. At that time you can hardly invest your innate potential but you can choose to maneuver the situation. Sometimes you may decide to use other people’s opinions and suggestions which can be either positive or negative.

Also most of us fail sometimes because we didn’t plan very well for a rainy day. I once had a friend who likes to buy things in bulk and store them and use them slowly,at that time I thought that she was wasting her money on those things but I find out later that what I bought will not last for a month and I found myself struggling to keep up before the month runs out. I observed her and discovered that what I spent in six months,is more than what she spent in three months. I weighed the pros and cons and decided to adopt her method and I’m too glad I did because it helped me to plan myself and manage my income without putting myself under unnecessary pressure. So planning very well helps a lot but when you plan,see if your plan can carry you on a long term goal and not short term.

We sometimes failed because we may like to be like others around us forgetting that what works for Mr A may not work for you even if it’s the same problem.I have a neighbor who always quarrelled with his wife and in some occasions, the man may beat up his wife and we will go for peace talk and after the same problem will still reoccur.So I suggested to the wife that she should avoid talking back when the man is talking to avoid getting into trouble and she did and from that day henceforth, everything returned back to normal. Later, she told me that one of her friends is having the same problem in her marriage and suggested what I told her to the friend and her silence infuriated the man that he sent her packing saying that she was treating him as a fool. I sighed because I know perfectly well that what works for her can not work for her friend because every situation requires a special solution. Not all solutions works out.

If you must avoid failure in your life, marriage and career, you ought to know what works for you and go for it.